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Glenice, Kelli, Cindy, Irene and Tawny: mothers who have lost loved ones, who were part of Compassionate Friends retreat. (Sherman Dahl photo)
part of grieving process

Compassionate Friends connect and heal at retreat

Sep 20, 2022 | 1:00 PM

Organizers say the Compassionate Friends annual retreat was a huge success.

The Compassionate Friends (CF) is a group that offers friendship, understanding and hope to those going through the natural grieving process of losing a loved one.

The retreat, held at Whatsan Lake near Edgewood B.C., gives participants some quiet time in nature.

CF organizer Kelli Rose has developed the annual retreat into a “green mental health” opportunity, helping people to be present in the moment, outdoors in nature.

The group describes it as rebuilding a connection to your environment and your sense of oneness with the universe to help feel less alone.

“Some call it “grounding,” that feeling of being connected to the earth by walking barefoot on the grass, listening to the birds or feeling the wind in your hair,” said Rose.

Sherman Dahl of The Emily Dahl Foundation was in attendance on the last day of the retreat, Sept. 18, to present to the group.

“I have come every year since [his daughter] Emily passed away in 2019. This year, me and my [dog] Frenchie ‘Frank the Tank’ went for a hike to the Hippie Hole and had a wonderful time with this compassionate group. This helps so much,” Dahl stated.

Frank the dog checks out the surroundings at the Compassionate Friends retreat (Sherman Dahl photo)

In his presentation to the group, Dahl shared the work of Joanne Cacciatore who wrote the book “Grieving is Loving.”

“Dr. Jo teaches us, that if you love, you will grieve — and nothing is more mysteriously central to becoming fully human. This book is a companion to carry with you throughout your day, to touch in with and be supported by when bearing the unbearable pain of a loved one’s death, whether weeks or years since their passing. Our culture often makes the bereaved feel alone, isolated, broken, and like they should just “get over it.” This book offers a loving antidote,” said Dahl.

Dahl passed on the following quote from Cacciatore’s book “Grieving is Loving” which he feels sums up the connection people have to the rest of the world if they stop and tune into it:

“Every tear you shed, and all the countless tears shed by myriad others throughout time and space, have become drops in the vast oceanic story of loving and grieving.” (Dr. Joanne Cacciatore).

For more information on Compassionate Friends, click here.

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